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Bill of Rights

It’s All About Respect!

The give and take, without control . . .

Respect is not the same as obedience, so to even talk about rights we must point out that respect is supposed to be mutual in a relationship.
However, domestic violence relationships are often reactionary and obedience is often the definition of respect from the perspective of  the abuser. Therefore disobedience can be seen as disrespect and can lead to violence. This is very possibly the reason why the abused are said to be most in danger when leaving a domestically violent relationship. This is why we encourage you to get help and support through this time!

Did you know that healthy is a choice . . .

 A healthy relationship is about choice, for whatever reasons we see that people sometimes lose control in a relationship.

The Bill of Rights is about balance. It is also give and take.

 

Bill of Rights!

 

  • You have the right to be you.
  • You have the right to put yourself first.
  • You have the right to be safe.
  • You have the right to love and be loved.
  • You have the right to be treated with respect.
  • You have the right to be human – NOT PERFECT.
  • You have the right to be angry and to protest if you are treated unfairly or abusively by anyone.
  • You have the right to your own privacy.
  • You have the right to your own opinions, to express them, and to be taken seriously.
  • You have the right to control your own money.
  • You have the right to ask questions about anything that affects your life.
  • You have the right to make decisions that affect you.
  • You have the right to grow and change, which  includes changing your mind.
  • You have the right to say NO.
  • You have the right to make mistakes.
  • You have the right to NOT be responsible for another adults problems.
  • You have the right to not be liked by everyone.
  • You have the right to control your own life and to change it if you are not happy with it as it is.

 

Healthy relationship vs. unhealthy

 

Healthy relationships have boundaries and give and take that does not belittle, frighten or demean a person. There is balance and a feeling of well being. That is not to say it is not difficult. Just not dangerous.

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